vs. Interpretation: 'But it's Not Fair!'
Language gives us the capacity for creating and inventing the future. Remember, each of our futures is a function of what we say is going to happen on our shift. One could say that our speaking creates reality. Creating new realities and leading others into action on behalf of the compelling future we say, is a gift and a privilege. What compelling future do you want to lead others towards?
To clarify the future you are creating, answer the following questions:
What future lights me up?
'But it's not fair!'
If we make up an interpretation that our problems or breakdowns are unfair, we are setting ourselves up for self-created suffering. And, by judging the person, place or thing (blaming) that upset us, there are suddenly two problems instead of one. Going with the interpretation that something is unfair is a huge energy drain, which can consume and distract us from our breakthrough projects. Another possibility is to walk the situation through the post-project register for value questions. Ask yourself:
What does this unexpected result allow for?
'It had long since come to my attention that people of accomplishment
rarely sat back and let things happen to them. They went out and happened
Creating powerful work teams, or starting and growing a new business from the ground up, or raising a child with the love and compassion to understand that s(he) can be anything s(he) wants to be, all starts, as Rayona would say with 'what you say is going to happen on your shift.'
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